Thank you for commenting on this blog. I have a new theory on this. Deep in meditation I realized that I am not saying so much, “Send back to sender,” as I am “I see you and here is what you look like.” I think that makes people feel heard and also understand what they have just said/done. It is the idea that we are a reflection of others. When you actively think it, you are deciding to NOT take this on as your own, while allowing them to say what they feel compelled to say. It is the same thing but perhaps a little more loving to say, “I see you and here is what you look like.” Thank you, Tammy.